Hello~
I have a little bit of a problem...it probably shouldn't be, but it bothers me just a little. Back in March, i met a really wonderful guy whose family is very active in the AC church. i had never even heard of this religion before, nevermind knowing all the rules and processes of joining. I have been raised a christian...though, not a christian by the AC standards, (at least i dont think....). Anyway, i am dating this guy and he is the most wonderful person ever! we have so much fun together and we get along very well. I do have one concern...as i am getting to know him, i am seeing that he is confused as to whether or not to join the ACC. he tells me that his family pretty much expects it and that someday, he will join...probably. but my issue is, that i might be holding him back from what he knows he needs, or wants, to do. i sometimes feel as though he would compromise what he wants because of me, and i would hate for that to happen, mostly because i would never put my beliefs aside for someone who didnt agree with them. i told him that i would never join the church...i dont think its wrong, there are jsut too many things i dont agree with and he's fine with that. but sometimes he talks about our relationship "going on forever" (which should be a red flag anyway, since we're only 18!!)
and i feel kind of badly, because i know we want completely different things in life. i also dont feel accepted by his family, esp. his father...whenever i am with them, i feel very out of place....almost like they are better than me or something. but i really do care about him, and i want to try to keep our relationship going, but he told me that if he ever became a member, and we werent married, that he cuoldnt date me-just be friends, and emotionally, i couldnt do that. i just want to do what's right for both of us...i'm hoping that when i go to college this issue will become less of a problem, but i just would like some advice....if anyone has any. also.....sorry this is so long!
Thanks :-)
I have a little bit of a problem...it probably shouldn't be, but it bothers me just a little. Back in March, i met a really wonderful guy whose family is very active in the AC church. i had never even heard of this religion before, nevermind knowing all the rules and processes of joining. I have been raised a christian...though, not a christian by the AC standards, (at least i dont think....). Anyway, i am dating this guy and he is the most wonderful person ever! we have so much fun together and we get along very well. I do have one concern...as i am getting to know him, i am seeing that he is confused as to whether or not to join the ACC. he tells me that his family pretty much expects it and that someday, he will join...probably. but my issue is, that i might be holding him back from what he knows he needs, or wants, to do. i sometimes feel as though he would compromise what he wants because of me, and i would hate for that to happen, mostly because i would never put my beliefs aside for someone who didnt agree with them. i told him that i would never join the church...i dont think its wrong, there are jsut too many things i dont agree with and he's fine with that. but sometimes he talks about our relationship "going on forever" (which should be a red flag anyway, since we're only 18!!)
and i feel kind of badly, because i know we want completely different things in life. i also dont feel accepted by his family, esp. his father...whenever i am with them, i feel very out of place....almost like they are better than me or something. but i really do care about him, and i want to try to keep our relationship going, but he told me that if he ever became a member, and we werent married, that he cuoldnt date me-just be friends, and emotionally, i couldnt do that. i just want to do what's right for both of us...i'm hoping that when i go to college this issue will become less of a problem, but i just would like some advice....if anyone has any. also.....sorry this is so long! Thanks :-)
